For Tops and Dommes – All Things Kink

Thuddy Buddy!

Good morning kinky peeps! I am back and will be back around a lot more again. You may not believe this, but my apartment has been consumed by a demonic presence for the past few months and it has really been restricting my creativity. hahaha. I am actually not joking. As a matter of fact,…
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More About Collaring

Welcome on another rainy evening, from the state of North Hell-lina. I know I have not been available for the past few weeks. I’ve been making super cool shit, new kick ass resin toys and dragon tails galore along with trying to get my space back in order. Don’t forget, promo code : wordpress gets…
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Humility in Kink

I always talk about my dynamic as if it were sunshine and rainbows all the time. Well, guess what, my friends, it is not. Most people go into kink for sexual purposes at first and then fall in love with the lifestyle. A lot of kink isn’t even directly sexual. There are sexual undertones because,…
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The S and the M

The cream to the Cafe Bustelo We all know what BDSM stands for, right? Well, if not, it stands for, bondage, discipline, sadism, and masochism. The S&M is literally like the cream to our kinky coffee. By definition, sadism is a person deriving pleasure or gratification from inflicting pain on others. Thats a nice dictionary…
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Part 2- Developing a Training Plan for Your sub

I told you I would be back! Welcome to part two! If you are reading this, I assume you have read part one. If you have not read part one, be a good girl/boy and do so. If not, you may or may not be a little lost. Today I am going to cover the…
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Developing a training plan for your sub-part one

Welcome all, on this rainy morning! Well it is rainy in the dump of a state, North Carolina. Hopefully it is sunny and beautiful everywhere else. So this morning I’m going to talk about the development of your submissive and how to devise an appropriate training plan to fit their needs. This is typically the…
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A girl has needs, right?

Welcome one and all! Tonight I’m going to discuss the hierarchy of needs in a dynamic. I started my journey in kink at a very young age. I have topped, bottomed, dommed and subbed. One thing that doesn’t change with the evolution of roles is the needs. We all have wants and needs. A need…
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Dominating a dominant women

I have read many articles lately, in reference to dominating a dominant woman, I have been left less than impressed. I am not one to bash anyone’s creativity, however, it is very clear that articles I have read are written by men who have no real idea or concept of BDSM or Ds dynamics. I…
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Dealing with THE DROP

In life, all good comes with a little bad. Life is about balance, am I right? After intense play a person is likely to experience subdrop. Subdrop is an intense emotional decline due to the expense of certain hormones. It can happen a few hours or a few days after the scene. The more intense…
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When the new wears off- readers choice- and mine

Omg….what’s different? Why does everything feel so different? I’m sure many of you have asked yourself this, or messaged me and asked me. Hence why I am writing this. It’s called the “new” wearing off. Not everyone is the same and that’s what keeps life flavorful, right? Some people are die hard, “express” themselves to…
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Consent/ Intent/Abuse

So, this is something that I think get overlooked and brushed off frequently. When does pushing limits become a violation of consent? I have been in great D/s situations that were based off consent, trust, and all the other good stuff. They may not have worked out for the long haul, but I never felt…
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Submissive Headspace

I am going to talk about what submissive headspace is and means. It is not the same thing as subspace. Subspace is essentially the “high” a person feels after being dominated. The headspace is the mental mindset of being submissive. The appropriate mindset is needed to maximize your full potential as a sub so you…
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Those fuzzy subbie feelings

Not everything in BDSM has to be necessarily sexual in that moment. It can be simply a feeling that brings you a sense of relief and escape from the stress of daily life. Not to say you can’t put the idea of it in the spank bank, but not everything in that moment has to…
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Collars and Cupcakes

This post has nothing to do with cupcakes. I just enjoy the taste of soft, warm, confectionaries melting in my mouth. Shall we save that for another post? I think so. Collars and collaring seem to be a rather controversial topic in the BDSM community. I believe the reason is so many people have a…
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Is BDSM possible for survivors of abuse?

First and foremost, I am not a doctor or a therapist. If you are in need of psychological help, please seek a professional Is BDSM a healthy headspace for abuse survivors? I firmly believe BDSM can be an outlet for anyone, regardless of their past. I personally have been through trials and tribulations, waging anywhere…
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