Turn up the heat for your very naughty girl
Impact play is a very common form of BDSM. It can be used sensually, as a form of corrective discipline or just for the hell of it. I have already discussed impact play in a previous article, but tonight we are going to talk about adding a little intensity and feeling to your normal impact routine. These tips may help you get a little more from your submissive, by using various, emotional stimulators.
-Everyone loves a little humiliation, right? –
One thing that is often appealing to submissives is the feeling of humiliation associated with impact play/spanking. This list will dig a little deeper into that feeling:
- Nudity– Before beginning your impact session, you can make the submissive strip completely naked, while you stay fully clothed. This will accentuate the nudity and make the submissive feel more dehumanized and owned.
- Corner Time- This is always fun. Making the submissive stand against the wall or in the corner, fully naked, can create more than just the feeling of humiliation. You can also make your naughty one hold a coin against the wall with their nose. The waiting game may make the submissive feel “fear” (they never should feel REAL fear for their wellbeing) and anticipation of what’s to come. You can walk in the other room, make phone calls, or even cook dinner. All the while your poor subbie must stand there waiting for what you have coming.
- Verbal Humiliation- While you are spanking the submissive, you can tell them how they should feel ashamed and degrade them (with consent. If this is something you know will arouse your dirty girl). For subbies who are really into spanking, particularly age play, use “hot phases and words” such as: “blister your bottom” refer to their butt or areas as “bottom”. Anything that makes them feel like a helpless child. According to 32 female spankos, those words and phrases really got them going. The verbal association can stimulate both feelings, humiliation and control loss.
- Different Positions– Some submissive find laying completely naked over their Tops knee to endure a spanking is rather humiliating. Also, making the sub bend over furniture with their feet slightly off the ground and their entire backside and privates exposed is a great way to also achieve this feeling. Bending completely over and grabbing the ankles is also super sexy and humiliating.
-Helplessness & Sensory Deprivation-
- Bondage- Tying the submissive up in various ways during an impact scene can intensify the feeling of helplessness and control loss.
- Ball Gag- Since a ball gag prevents speech, it is safe to say the submissive will feel power loss. If they are unable to communicate the desire for you to stop the act, they feel even more at the will of the Top. In this type of situation make sure you do have a physical sign or que the submissive can give you if things get too intense
- Blindfold- This is another form of sensory deprivation that can create the feeling of helplessness and loss of control. The submissive will not know what is coming do to the restriction of sight.
Implement is just a fancy term for objects used for spanking. I am going to list the various implements, the sensation and the intensity.
- Hairbrush– People don’t give enough credit for this common object. Depending on the thickness of the hairbrush, will determine the intensity. It is a deeper stinging sensation.
- Bamboo Paddle– Depending on the force used, determines the sensation. The harder the impact the duller and more painful the sting.
- Wooden Spoon- This is another object that is not given enough credit. The wooden spoon can be very painful. This gives a “thud” sensation. It has more thickness and can welp if not properly administered. Or you may be looking for a welp and that works too.
- Leather Paddle- Very sharp intense sting
- Belt- The thicker the belt the less painful. I am not sure why that is, but it’s true. The skinnier the belt the bigger the sting and the more intense.
I cannot give you an accurate description of what a flogger or a lollipop feels like. Maybe this will change in the future. Until then, this is what I can personally attest to. I will do some more research and speak to more people to try to get a better gauge of those implements.
Remember when dealing with female submissives, focus on the emotional standpoint of this type of play. This will achieve much more than just the physical sensation will. Women need mental stimulation, not just physical. The physical does very little if the mind is not touched. I always say “Fuck my mind first, and then you can fuck my body”